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The dating style that could be your present or future relationship! |
The famous celebrities do it! Do you? Speed dating that is. Is your solution to a broken heart to find someone new?
Skipping between relationships is a trend that affects everyone at some time or another. Sociologists have reported a growing trend in the number of young women seeking therapy and claim that therapy is partly responsible for the rise in the number of `speed daters`. An unwillingness to settle for someone we believe does not treat us as well as we deserve is the notion driving the behaviour. Celebrities have speed dated for decades – skipping between hangers on and beautiful people who will massage their ego and then who a few weeks later don’t live up to expectations – so they get dumped.
A new partner every week?
The thrill of speed love can be addictive. Everyone wants the best partner they can get. In looks, personality and every other respect. Skipping between glamorous people can be an ego boost from heaven – making you feel sexy, beautiful and popular, but when the initial rush of new passion wears off – there is nothing apart from the superficiality of it all – speed lovers then take off and find someone new hence starting the cycle all over.
Young women have more opportunity for potential partners than
ever before
The rebound romance is the most emotionally damaging part of speed dating. A reluctance to face up to the breakdown of a relationship manifests itself as a desire to hide true feelings by replacing them with more positive ones. The only thing wrong with this is that speed daters don’t learn from their mistakes in relationships – they never accept responsibility for a breakdown and as a result are destined to make those same mistakes again and again.
Breaking the cycle
Take time out. A gap between relationships is important to re-establish yourself as an individual person. Time to concentrate on you and only you is vital if you are to know what you truly want and desire in a partner. Just taking time out to be you and have fun for a while is the key to breaking the speed dating cycle. Speed dating is rooted in the fear of being alone. Highlighting the positive aspects of a single life for a while can reverse this belief and make you appreciate the value and time to be just you. Learning to cope with a relationship breakdown in a positive manner is vital and must be faced head on. Hiding your emotions by diving into another relationship is a quick fix.
Plus, how can you give your present partner a real chance at a successful relationship with you, if he/she is just the latest in a long line of partners that you could never have been without.
For a relationship to work and survive the two individuals must be whole, complete people that bring different and yet stable values to the relationship. Trying to make a relationship survive that consists of two half people clinging to each other insecurely is no way for that relationship to last.
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Ways to tell if you are a SPEED LOVER! |
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Names are a disaster. You call all partners `babe`
to keep your life simple! |
You calculate you have been
single for about a week this year so far… |
Your dairy is a mess of
scribbled out names and telephone numbers |
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A weekend spent alone makes
you feel ultra depressed and lonely |
You’ve had more partners than
all your friends put together…. |
…and have thought at some
point that each one would last. |
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You seem to spend hours changing
the numbers in your mobile phone |
Your idea of a serious
relationship is one that lasts a month |
The tan line on your
engagement finger barely fades between rings. |